All Growed Up
Today I had lunch with an ex-boyfriend. Everyone’s awkward alarm is ringing now! Don’t worry, it wasn’t that bad. It was suprisingly pleasant. Not the most fun lunch I have ever had, but definitely not the worst.
When we broke-up, we were both a bit broken. Well, at least I was. It was the right thing for both us then and now; but y’all know what break-ups are like. They can mess you up real good. Especially when you were dating since high school and lived on the same floor of the same student dormitory in university. Uh-huh. I’ll leave that part to your imagination. O_o
Even with the mutual friends in our hometown and adopted city, we still managed to remain remarkably awkward around each other for many years.
That’s always baffling, eh? The sharp shift from extreme closeness to impossible distance so suddenly and permanently. At some point, active avoidance just turned into relative indifference.
To be honest, the status quo hadn’t been bothering me much. I was too busy learning, laughing, living and loving the love of my life. Ha! 😀 To those of you going through heartache, realize that you will move on. I know you can’t believe this after every brutal break-up; but eventually you’ll get the drift. And the drifting is real nice. 😉
I remember when our parents were moving us into the student residence and we learnt that we would be living just a few doors down from each other. At the time, Mr. X’s mother was concerned that my proximity to her son might be too distracting, potentially interfering with his then goal of getting into medical school.
Want to know what brought us together for lunch today? It’s law school acceptance time. Someone’s been mulling over final law school decisions and wanted to hear about my experience in the trenches. Hahaha. 😛
It’s funny how things turn out. I mean, changing academic/career goals is no big surprise, but it sort of shows how much we’ve changed more generally. I know when we grew apart, but when did we grow up?
Relatives, teachers, even strangers have always described me as precocious–even when I was just a wee one. Even I’ve always felt mature beyond my years. I guess we all overestimated my maturity because it looks like I only really grew up recently.
And you know what? I like being a grown-up very much.
gnome G Says:
Hello there! Thanks much for swinging by my blog and leaving such nice words! So glad to find you! And yay for enjoying grown-up-hood. And being able to have a civil lunch with an ex. And having a wonderful time drifting and finding the love of your life. Yay!
reesie Says:
i’m impressed you can remain on a semi-awkward basis with an ex. i’m the type who ridiculously cuts exes out of my life and decides to never talk to them again. i don’t seem like such a cruel person, but i suppose i am when it comes to that! do you think you two will get together and talk and eat another time?
ps – hehe, you have my typepad address on your blogroll! the typepad acct that expired and doesn’t exist anymore. poo on me!
Adrienne Says:
gnome G- Thanks for popping by! I meant everything I said. Your creativity is awe-inspiring. Love love love all that you share with the Internet. 🙂
Reese- I know my blogroll is WAY out of date. I’ve been lazy about re-organizing it. I’ll get on that. Fixed your link already.
You convinced me to jump on the bloglines bandwagon so I’m barely even glance at that links section anyway. Still, for the benefit of my readers, I should fix it up.
red wings Says:
the ex has always been ackward for me. we try to be friendly but then drama intercedes and then we have a huge feather boa flying fight and then never talk to each other again.
it’s eerie how consistent that pattern is.
anyway, you’ve always seemed very grown-up to me. but maybe it’s just because i’m horribly immature, daydreaming like a child. hahaha.
and yay for successful love connections!